The Environment How to raise a child is an issue, which has been debated for years and probably will for many more. We have all been raised differently, and most parents think the way they raised or are raising their children are the best. In this article Amy Chua tells us about the way Chinese mothers prepare their children for success during their upbringing. Therefore you can assume that the title causes uproar between western parents.
Tweet You and Tiger mom are a lot alike. In fact, according to The Wall Street Journal. To demonstrate "my way or the highway" of Chinese parenting, Chua lists some of the things she didn't allow her two daughters, Sophia and Lulu, to do: Then, what made my son say that we are alike?
Both she and her Jewish husband are the professors of Yale Law University. While the book reveals the Chinese way of authoritative parenting and the enormous energy and discipline required to raise prodigies, it is more a memoir filled with wit, humor and humaneness, as Chua allows us to look behind the closed door without any reservation.
It also unfolds the way parenting, especially raising her second daughter Lulu, forced a determined parent like Chua to compromise "my way. It's also about Mozart and Mendelssohn, the piano and the violin, and how we made it to Carnegie Hall. This was supposed to be a story of how Chinese parents are better at raising kids than Western ones.
But instead, it's about a bitter clash of cultures, a fleeting taste of glory, and how I was humbled by a thirteen-year-old. Having explained the features of this non-fiction character, we often joked around that I should turn into a Tiger mom when I was too easy on him.
When my son voiced his interests in reading the entire book, however, I was bewildered. After all, it's not a children's book, and my parenting principle is quite different from that of hers.
Having confirmed with his fifth grade homeroom teacher at American School here in New Delhi about the book's appropriateness, I let him borrow my book. As it turns out, not only did my son enjoy reading the book, but he got out the essence of the story far more than I was expecting.
The Chinese mom's way vs. Maybe the Chinese mom's way, though it may hurt children's self-esteem. We only have about 20 years before becoming an adult.
But the grown-up's life can be over 40 years or even 60 years. A Western mom's children can have fun life for 20 years, but may have a bad life afterwards.
Put differently, the main difference between the two parenting approaches stems from the contrastive ways each parent perceives childhood, albeit both parents sharing the common ultimate motives and visions: However, Chinese parents believe in the orthodox paradigm that parents as authority figures know what's best for their children.
Further, their happiness is closely related to stereotypical success or achievement in an ever competitive world, which can be earned only through hard work.
In turn, childhood is seen as a preparation period for adulthood to instill the virtue of hard work and respect for the authority figures, and should not be wasted by engaging in the activities that would be of no use.
Western mothers or Western literature on the subject, on the other hand, believe in the importance of childhood in itself and the process of learning, while recognizing the purpose in free play and other developmentally appropriate activities. Only then, children will be able to have a strong foundation to become an independent person who can think out-of-box to thrive in an ever-changing future world.
If the children are used to it, like her daughters, it may work. But I won't be able to take it if you suddenly change into a Tiger mom. Also, I wouldn't want to be called garbage like Sophia was, because I cannot help imagining myself turning into real garbage and thrown into a garbage bin, feeling unwanted and useless.
Pertaining to the self-esteem argument, I also found it interesting that my son picked up one of the notorious anecdotes of Chua's calling her daughter garbage, because I almost called my son garbage in Japanese when he was in the first grade here at American School.
About five years ago upon finding out that my son told his classmate, an adopted Asian child of a respected American family, "you don't even have your real parents," I went pale shouting at my son, "only human trash ningen-no-kuzu could say such a thing!
At that time, being called ningen-no-kuzu human trash was nothing about feeling unwanted or unloved, but it made me feel 'what have I done! Even though I didn't forget to have "we need to talk" session, and the phrase ningen no kuzu human trash in Japanese is commonly used and its translation may be closer to the English term "scum," I could have avoided name-calling or resorted to another way of teaching ethics.
Looking at the treatment that Chua got by sharing the episode, I start to wonder if what I said could be also seen as abusive depending on their cultural backgrounds or where they stand.1.
(1) Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior by Amy Chua The Wall Street Journal Online: The Saturday Essay January 8, timberdesignmag.com An exclusive excerpt from Amy Chua's "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother." Dow Jones, a News Corp company News Corp is a network of leading companies in the worlds of diversified media, news.
The media is abuzz about Amy Chua's book, "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother" (see this excerpt from The Wall Street Journal). Chua argues that "Chinese" mothers "are superior" because they demand. Mar 15, · In our essay, we have looked at the differences between USA and Chine in how the two cultures raise their children.
We based this study on an article (Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior) and a book (Battle Hymn of a Chinese Tigermother) written by a woman called Amy Chua. Amy Chua argues in her essay, “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior,” that children raised from Chinese mothers are more successful than those raised by Western mothers.
She believes that Chinese children attain exceptional achievements from forced training and develop a . Jan 18, · Amy Chua's "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother" has spawned a storm of debate about cultural differences and parenting.
But what do Chua's kids .